The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Training Process
Starting point
Reaching our goal
Signing up

Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Deciding to Win

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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Here are four different categories. Perhaps, one of these groups is more like you than another. On the next page, you will need to choose the one most like you.
1• The Struggler
   - Cares enough to let it bother him; he is often isolated.
This person knows he has a problem but has not told others. He is ashamed. He covers up his problems with busyness and success in other areas of his life. But he is aware of his failures. He wishes down deep that this was never a problem. He realizes this problem really keeps him from being his real self. This phoniness haunts him, and he hates it. He hates himself and the guilt.

2• The Singed
- resigned to despair and basically given up.
This person has gone through so many struggles that he has pretty much given up the fight. He sees no value in keep struggling. He has made some costly deals because of sexual experimentation and now must payoff the bet he loss. He has nothing to boast about. He is humbled but admits his life needs go on.

3• The Singer
boastful about his sexual immorality.
This kind of person has recently become more common. Society with its wavering mores has encouraged those who have lost the fight of sexual self-control to proudly announce their decisions of defeat. They of course do not want to admit to defeat so instead they pretend to have won. They claim to be in control where in fact they have given themselves to open shame.
4• The Self-controlled
   - quiet, sincere and serious about purity.
The self-controlled person faces sexual temptations like the rest, and maybe even with bouts of defeat. But each time he has again come around and found God's grace and goal of purity. He holds himself accountable for his slip ups. Temptation approaches him, but by God's grace he overcomes it. Though these people might be in the quiet places of society, they are there. With the influx of web pornography, this group is dwindling down.

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