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Four designs
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God's Sexual Design for our Lives

#2 A Blended Design:       Marriage

There has been a lot of aggressive promotion for 'normalizing' homosexuality. Lots of pressure has been put on the government and different organizations to take the laws against homosexuals off the books and to protect their rights. Is this right? We must wonder whether all of a sudden we have been enlightened or is our society getting increasingly depraved. It is clear that marriage is defined as a lifelong intimate relationship between one male and one female. And again, we find Jesus quoting the ancient scriptures and affirming the authoritative teaching of God.
There are no exceptions to the combinations.

"And He (Jesus) answered and said, “Have you not read, that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, ‘FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH'? ” (Matthew 19:4-5)
1 male plus 1 female join together in marriage and become one unit

With so much discussion on alternative lifestyles, it is rare to hear or see positive statements on marriage itself. Seems like modern man is missing out on the secret of beautiful marriages. Apparently, they do not believe they exist!

Marriage has been designed to be wonderfully fulfilling in every way. Most marriages today are not so, but they can be. Sexual intimacies are expected to express and deepen the deep friendship of the husband with his wife. The book Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) portrays the beauty and depth of marital love. We are not to hide the love between husband and wife, and yet it is to be intimate and private.

Many married couples might have physical intimacies but are lacking genuine care, love and trust. When this occurs, their relationship becomes a mere body and body contact. There is nothing wrong with their having sexual intercourse but the potential of love is substituted for the connecting of bodies rather than hearts. The couple needs to resort to stimulating acts to continue to make it 'exciting.' Emptiness results from such activities because our selfishness has oppressed real love and guilt has struck deep against the chords of our soul. More will be shared later about the true nature of sexual intimacy.

God has designed the male and female to come together for a life long relationship not just for physical conveniences. There is the blending of hearts as well as bodies. Each contributes to the joy and fulfillment of the other rather than being focused on his or herself. In giving to each other, one finds fulfillment. The male and female, the husband and the wife, then find a greater life being blended with their spouse than in singleness.