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The Lord Your Healer: 

Discover Him and Find His Healing Touch by Paul J. Bucknell

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Discover Him and Find His Healing Touch

First step of discipleship
revive devotions
Advanced Discipleship

The Bible Teaching Commentary on Genesis: The Book of Foundations

Commentaries that specialize on training the teacher!

Overcoming Anxiety: Finding Peace, Discovering God


Christian Premarital Counseling Manual for Counselors

- Preparing the Two to Be One -

Christian Premarital Counseling

Principles of Godly Communication in a Marriage

Session #2

Rev. Paul J. Bucknell

Intro | Design | Communication | Decisions | Finances | Differences | Intimacy
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'Principles of Godly Communication' identifies for the engaged couple under premarital counseling the key issues for proper communicaton and how to properly think of them under the guidance of Biblical principles.

We are also seeking wisdom for ourselves to know what to and not to say. These sessions are very limited. We need God to prepare the couple and work in them.

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After this I begin with questions on how they are doing as a couple. Some couples might be shy and not be open about their disagreements. Probe a bit deeper into their answers until you get to know the couple and can know their situation.

This lesson is largely focused on basic communication skills. One has to see whether the husband talks and, if so, how much and about what. I also make sure that the couple talks in the right way, without criticism and arguing.

Some counselors openly say that arguing is good. It is not. Yes, arguments get the issues out in the open, but it does not do it in a proper way. And besides, there are other deeper issues that are hidden behind the now anger-covered scenes.

Time Distribution:

Get further acquainted; Check on past assignments (10')

Check on their buying the book and starting to read (hopefully together). See if the husband led a Bible study or prayer time with his fiancée.

Finish lesson #1: The Design of Marriage (5-30')

Don’t skip this section. Finish it next session if need be. In any case, briefly review it. You will need to keep coming back to it.

Discuss any Homework (5-10')

- Any forms from last week? (You can discuss them during the lesson or now).
- Get and read the book?
- Read God’s Word and pray together...

Further discussion can be found in the book along with all the customizable handouts and activity forms.

Building a Great MarriagePurchase or download the book 'Building a Greart Marriage'You can order the Building a Great Marriage printed seminar materials including handouts at the BFF Resource Center. Or even bettr get the BFF Marriage Training Library which includes the Christian Premarital Counseling as well as all of our many marriage resources like this book and its powerpoints, handouts, audios and videos.

Let's see what is involved for the couple to make good decisions without tension. Next ->

Preparing the needed biblical understanding, convictions and attitudes that enable singles to prepare for great marriages even if a prospective mate is not in sight!

Singles and sexual Purity Singles and Purity
Explains how a single can be sexually pure by God's power!

Getting Married Right! Getting Married Right!
Build your marriage on God's will for your lives by focusing on five areas of concern.

Getting Married Right! Building a Great Marriage
Special emphasis is on identifying the problems to poor marriages and three keys to great marriages.

Getting Married Right! Adjusting to Marriage
Understand the five critical steps to setting up a great marriage!

Benefits of Sexual Purity Benefits of Sexual Purity
Five great benefits to staying pure!

How shall a man find a good wife - the bad and right ways? Biblical Perspective of Finding a Spouse
How shall a man find a good wife - the bad and right ways? A word to single women.

Understanding Pleasure in Marriage and Life Understanding Pleasure in Marriage and Life
Find out the right place pleasure is to have in your marriage and sexual intimacies. Avoid extremes of rejection, shunning or being ruled by pleasure.

THE DISCOVERY OF LOVE : Human Love and Divine Love The Discovery of Love
Many marriages are running on human love. This is why they are failing to bring the fulfillment they were supposed to. Discover the difference between human and divine love.

Your Goal for Marriage Your Goal for Marriage
What is your goal of marriage? Why is it that the dream of a perfect union so often results in two separated lives?

Defending the Design of Marriage Defending the Design of Marriage
Six evidences of the design of marriage are given. To the degree a couple follows God's design, the more beautiful their marriage will be.

The Problems of a litlle Lust The Problems of a little Lust
A chart shows the many consequences of lust in a marriage. Now is the time for purity!

Fear of God & Avoiding Fornication Fear of God & Avoiding Fornication
Is purity hard? Then think through the way God deals with fornication.

The Marriage Breakdown The Marriage Breakdown
Marriage is under siege! Unbiblical views are infiltrating the young bride and bridegroom's mindset.

Scriptures typically quoted from the New American Standard Bible unless noted: (C) Copyright The Lockman Foundation 1988

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