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God's peace can help us live above anxieties as we learn to trust in Him!

The Lord Your Healer: 

Discover Him and Find His Healing Touch by Paul J. Bucknell

Newest! The Lord Your Healer

Discover Him and Find His Healing Touch

First step of discipleship
revive devotions
Advanced Discipleship

The Bible Teaching Commentary on Genesis: The Book of Foundations

Commentaries that specialize on training the teacher!

Overcoming Anxiety: Finding Peace, Discovering God


Christian Premarital Counseling Manual for Counselors

- Preparing the Two to Be One -

Christian Premarital Counseling

Understanding Our Differences in a Marriage

Session #5

Rev. Paul J. Bucknell

Intro | Design | Communication | Decisions | Finances | Differences | Intimacy
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'Understanding Our Differences' (Session #5) helps engaged couples to both identify and appreciate their spouse's differences and how to handle conflict that arises.

We have discussed decision making and ways to resolving conflict, but it is helpful to realize why one's spouse might have differing opinions. After all, if the couple is going to have a successful marriage, then they need to learn to appreciate and positively look at their fiancee.

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By understanding differences between male/female, personalities, gifts and varying backgrounds, one can better appreciate why their mate is so different from them.

Some Counselors

Some counselors prefer to use more expensive and sophisticated tests. I have found that so much time and money can be used that the whole point of the session can be missed. Emphasize the way one gains appreciation of each other. I want to them feel that they cannot do without each other. (That was the reason to record Adam's naming of the animals).

Their commitment to their mate will work together with the realization how their to-be spouse so wonderfully meets their need and helps spurt them forward into better knowing each other. Some feel more comfortable with more sophisticated testing devices. If so, use them!...

Further discussion is found in the book.

We will next look at love in marriage. Next ->

Renewing Poor Marriages

Enabling a couple to overcome barriers, difficulties, bitterness and other problems so that they can again work together for marital harmony.

THE IMPORTANCE OF LOVE : How divine love makes a difference in your marriage The Importance of Love
God's love sounds great. But how does one bring it into ones own life? See here how we can choose love.

Renewing Affections between Husband and Wife Renewing Affections between Husband and Wife

Husband's Special Guidelines if Wife is Unresponsive

Husband's Special Guidelines if He is Uninterested Husband's Special Guidelines if he himself is Uninterested

Husband's Special Guidelines if He is Uninterested Spirit of Divorce
Finding how Satan starts fights!

Wife's Special Guidelines if Husband is Inattentive to Her Needs Wife's Special Guidelines if Husband is Inattentive to her Needs

Wife's Special Guidelines if She is Uninterested Wife's Special Guidelines if she is Uninterested

Hope for Damaged Marriages Hope for Damaged Marriages
A couple can step by step break through communication impasse in their marriage. –Psalm 107

Harmony in Parenting – Discipline Harmony in Parenting – Discipline
Shows step by step how a couple can stay harmonious whild discussing a difficult issue such as child discipline.

Is there hope for my marriage? Is there hope for my marriage?
We all start at the same place of defeat. We have no purity to boast of. God starts rebuilding our marriages from there. The Readying the Mind series:

Down and up: Is there hope?
Learning well: What do I believe?
perspectives on sexuality
Try out this puzzle
Gaining confidence
Perspective on pleasure
Design worth mastering
Living by design
Design and freedom

God's Design of Marriage God's Design of Marriage
#1 A Special Design: Sexuality
Human sexuality
Life applications

#2 A Blended Design: Marriage
Blended Design
Partner Confusion
Being an Overcoming
Escaping homosexuality
Homosexual tendencies

#3 An Exclusive Design: Whole-hearted
Exclusive Design
Loving ones wife
"What if" questions

#4 A Permanent Design: Enduring
Life long marriage

Scriptures typically quoted from the New American Standard Bible unless noted: (C) Copyright The Lockman Foundation 1988

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