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God's Sexual Design for our Lives

#1 A Special Design: Sexuality

God designed human beings as sexual beings. He created both male and female as two distinct but complementary sexes. Foundational to a stable life is understanding, accepting and affirming our own gender. This is God's basic design for us.

Although this seems obvious to some, many are totally confused in this area of life. Some of this confusion comes from growing up in homes where gender roles were confusing. Others have difficulty because they hear (and believe) sexual differences are merely physical differences for sexual intercourse.

But the truth goes deeper than this physiological fact. Our genders are part of who we are. The situation is degrading quickly in some sectors of society. The press, for example, recently took some supposed expert seriously in his report claiming that there are five sexual categories rather than two.

God's viewpoint
God made only two kinds of sexual beings, male and female. He knows there are only two kinds of sexual beings.

"And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them." Genesis 1:27

We are either male or female.

Our sexuality goes beyond our sexual organs. Our sexual identity has a lot to do with our roles and purposes in life. We will focus on this hotly debated topic at another point, but for now we should realize that we are either male or female by God's choosing. Even our parents did not choose our sex. God chose our sexual identify for us along with all the ramifications it has for our lives. Our parents might have rebelled against God's choice and early on got rid of us if we were not of a certain sex, but this is so different than God's ways.

God in His wisdom and love chose each of our sex to be either male and female. Again observe how Jesus affirmed what the Old Testament had long ago affirmed.

"And He (Jesus) answered and said, “Have you not read, that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE..." (Matthew 19:4)

Our sexual identities are precious parts of our person and to be highly esteemed. Others might look down on us because we are male or female, but not God. God wrapped up our being with our sexual identify here on earth.

When we fuss about our sexual identity or someone else's, we are stepping onto holy ground. In such a case we are rebelling against God Himself and denying His wisdom and kindness.

God honored man with His most special design by making humans as either a male or female. This two-part creation reflects His own image. Let us make a few conclusions:
  • One sex is not better than another. They are designed differently so they can function in special ways.
  • The functions of each sex are good and honorable when used as God appointed.
  • Male and female were made to function together in an intimate relationship through marriage (we will see this next).

God's design then would encourage us to openly accept and embrace our own sexuality, whether it be male or female. God has His good purposes. We are sorry for those who are confused about their identity for it is confusion about God's special design for their lives.