The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Deciding to Win
Feel for winning
Building blocks
Design of marriage
Relevance of marrriage
Life changing truths
1) Loving or lusting
Choice of love
Fulfillment problems
Sources of love
Questions of love
Overcoming lusts
2) Filled or empty
Finding fulfillment
Problems of fulfillment
Sources of fulfillment
Questions of fulfillment
3) Security or loneliness
Choosing security
Overcoming loneliness
Clarifying our destination

Our Battle Plan

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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3) Forever Secure

The two choices
The choice of security
Overcoming loneliness



Three life truths displayed by marriage must be embraced to find our real meaning in life. It is through these truths that the bondage of lust is truly broken.
  1. The first life truth:
    When we choose to love, we cannot lust.
  2. The second life truth:
    When we receive the love of God, we are filled and no longer empty.

  3. The third life truth:
    When we are secure in God's love, we are in intimate relationship and need not be lonely.

The greatest things are great only if one can hold onto them. Marriage was meant to last. We see this in the two statements in Genesis and again repeated several times in the New Testament.

"For this cause a man .... shall cleave to His wife"
"And the two shall become one flesh."
(Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5)

There is an element of permanency about marriage. The two were welded into one. This was not just speaking of sex, but the perfect blend of their two lives into one. The genders, roles and the soul uniting all fit together creating what would be one. This permanent nature of marriage is the reason the Lord spoke strongly against divorce. Divorce rips flesh apart. Divorce always hurts. Divorce confuses the permanent picture of God's kingdom and the security it stands for.


This does not mean a marriage will continue into eternity. Jesus says it will not. Marriage was designed to last as long as both lived on earth. Marriage was designed to communicate the most beautiful picture of continuity and relationship one could find on earth. Marriage in its temporariness is but an analogy of a greater and eternally lasting relationship between God and His people.

This is why we have a choice between:
  1. Security: an intimate relationship cemented together for eternity.
      • Devotedness is founded on enduring relationships.

  2. Loneliness: shallow relationships created in expectant separation.
      • Lack of commitment stems from lack of intimacy.

Let's continue on and see the difference between the two lives.