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We might ask, "Why is it that only the man is commanded to love in a marriage?" The question is valid because it focuses on the different needs within the marriage. The wife has her struggles of submission. The husband is called to be perfect in His love by making it constant and pure.
Why is it that only the man is commanded to love in a marriage?
Every marriage needs a husband's love. Love results in good and kind leaders. If you work near one that lacks love, you will find great problems. Before taking a job or a wife, examine what you are getting into. Can you serve that person? Why is love so important?
As a husband, your love will find itself being determined to carry out God's pleasure in your household. Love in this case does not mean compromising God's principles for socalled unity, but persistent and gentle implementation of His will under His leadership. You must not be lazy or selfindulgent but consistent in giving the leadership and care needed to your wife.
Love by definition is also ... patient, love is kind, ... love does not brag and is not arrogant. Love's beauty is not in the way it compromises what is best and accepts what is inferior, but in that it is very keen to demonstrate its nature of giving. Love excels in what we find the hardest to do: waiting rather than demanding; extending tender care even when the other doesn't deserve it; fulfilling the others need rather than ones own; acknowledgement of ones own weaknesses and sin rather than clamoring for compliments to feed ones pride.
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Lastly, love by definition does not stop. Love "bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." Many think this kind of love is not real or possible but is more like a morning vapor which soon disappears as the sun begins to shine. This is because they don't know the God of love. But you do. Your marriage is a glorious relationship because you know God, and it is His love which will keep and bless your marriage.
Man often thinks he can create love by his own power. He is wrong. We find too quickly many instances where our love fails. But God's love, it never fails. Notice where God's love is most clearly seen: He gave His most precious Son to die for people who were totally undeserving of His kind action. Jesus went right to the cross, having abandoned all His rights but to give and to die. His love didn't stop during His betrayal by those most close to Him, but brought Him right through death's door.
Remember when you feel like giving up that God's love is not just modeled in Christ's life but has been brought right into your own lives and marriage as followers of Christ. And so Christ commands us to love one another as God has loved us. Some say it is hardest to love those who are closest. I'm not sure about this, but we do know that if you are faithful in loving with His love: unselfishly, kindly, patiently and persistently, that your love which is from God will usher you two into the most beautiful relationship possible on earth. May God richly bless you with His love. Next >