The Pursuit of Pleasure
Solomon told us what he was after.
“I said to myself, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure. So enjoy yourself.” “ Then I became great and increased more than all who preceded me in Jerusalem. My wisdom also stood by me. And all that my eyes desired I did not refuse them. I did not withhold my heart from any pleasure, for my heart was pleased because of all my labor and this was my reward for all my labor.”
He was after delighting himself. He wanted a good life, or should we say the best life possible. He gave himself over to his eyes and did not refuse them. Many of us, perhaps, have coveted this position in life: to do anything that one wanted. But I would say that it is the most dangerous position to be in. For one will simple follow one’s desires. A person would leave God, if he indeed worshiped God at all.
Wealth is pursued because it promises to offer the key to gaining what one thinks will make him feel pleased about his life. The scriptures numerous times not to run after money.
“Let your character be free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,” so that we confidently say, “THE LORD IS MY HELPER, I WILL NOT BE AFRAID. WHAT SHALL MAN DO TO ME?” (Hebrews 13:5-6).
If one chases after wealth and what it promises, then one can see that one’s heart is not right. We see that this is where Solomon had probably left God. He now is looking back and seeing the emptiness of all his pursuits. Please don’t interpret this to mean that God is a pleasure stealer. Wrong! He is a pleasure giver. He gave us our senses, including our sexual senses. They are good and to be enjoyed. But God has also given us the context within which they will be most fully realizedas a loyal spouse in marriage alone. Pornography promises delight but every time brings despair and rejection.
Some of the things Solomon did were not right. He sinned in the process of pursuing his goals. Some guys think it a dream fulfilled to have any woman he wanted. Solomon chased after this dream for awhile. He had the wealth and power to get the women that he wanted. But he used them and then discarded them. A woman wants to be cherished, not used. Solomon used women for his own pleasures and then put them in a place never to be seen again. When we are guided by our eyes rather than what is best, then we will never reach the highest pleasures God wants to bring to us. Never give up on a pure marriage for it is there one will find the greatest delights. If these girls satisfied him, perhaps he would have stopped with number 267 virgin.
Later Solomon shares a secret. Simply enjoy the wife of your youth. “Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life, and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.” (Ecclesiastes 9:9). Don’t be betrayed by your eyes and think that a certain girl or guy will satisfy you. Some girls will give themselves to guys in order to secure them. Let Solomon be a lesson for you. Many guys are following their eyes and do not really care about relationship. Never compromise. Set high standards. If he is not willing to wait, then you can be sure he has lesser goals. It is funny for this phrase, “Enjoy the wife of your youth” to come from his mouth. He swallowed his pride and admitted to what was best was not what he chose. God’s plan for one woman per man is the best.
Let’s try to understand pleasure a bit more.
Our modern society is hedonistic. It lives for pleasure. People live for their pleasures because they are convinced that it is the right aim in life for them. They have a learned belief that pleasures bring about the greatest satisfaction in life no matter how one can get them. There is a parallel distrust in God because they believe He tries to hold back pleasure by His rules and commands.
The English word ‘hedonism’ comes from the Greek word for wild pleasure or lust. Notice how it is used the five times it appears in the NT. There are other words for good pleasure. Each time this word, hedone is used, the context describes something that is not good. I will read through each and make a comment.
- “And the seed which fell among the thorns, these are the ones who have heard, and as they go on their way they are choked with worries and riches and pleasures of this life” (Luke 8:14). Indulging in pleasures is one means the evil one steals the ‘Word of God,’ the seed, from our hearts.
- “For we also once were foolish ourselves, disobedient, deceived, enslaved to various lusts and pleasures” (Titus 3:3). Christians should not live for pleasure. If a person is enslaved to pleasure, then he should really question if he is a true believer. Christians today justify an addiction to this or that. It would be better to be honest and see where their true love is and not call themselves a Christian until they repent.
- “What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?” (James 4:1) When we live for these pleasures, they are self-seeking and will always introduce rivalry, conflicts and fights. The next time you are in a conflict, look around at the parties involved and see what people are trying to get.
- “You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures” (James 4:3). We often ask God for things not to do His will but to advance our own pleasures and lusts. Instead, we should seek grace from Him to do good deeds.
- “They count it a pleasure to revel in the daytime. They are stains and blemishes, reveling in their deceptions, as they carouse with you, (2 Peter 2:13) In summary, this hedonistic mindset gets bolder and bolder so that they not only secretly fulfill their desires but openly do them. They are deluded.
Let’s try to better understand this.
Pleasure Seeker’s Cycle
Why would Solomon openly seek pleasure? Why would he keep doing it? Why would anyone do it? Why would the society as a whole chase after these things. To be true, Solomon is not only chasing after pleasure in the form of lusts. He did that. He satisfied his eyes.
He teased himself with drugsin the form of alcohol. But he would not get drunk. We congratulate him on that control, but the whole long experiment seemed to be a pursuit of pleasure. This was not right. Other things are pleasures of a different kind: the pleasure of charity, the pleasure of accomplishing some big task, the pleasure of fulfilling some noble dream. He not only experienced pleasure in its more obvious base forms, but within legitimate means, but also in many other ways.
Let’s first understand the Pleasure Seeker’s Cycle associated with sensual lusts and as appropriate use it to understand the other forms of pleasure seeking. This will help you understand why Peter said people are ‘enslaved by their lusts’ or the modern equivalent word used to describe this ‘addiction.’ Behind all these words are thoughts going through a person’s mind as well as feelings, such as frustration and pleasure, being experienced in the body. There is also soul sadness, guilt, and emotional emptiness, depression and boredom. Let me suggest how it all works together. We see parts of it here and there in Solomon’s words as well as in the number of people around us in the society.
I still remembering wondering why the dorm I stayed in would haul in this beer, get in a drunken stupor, smell up the place with their throw up, act like idiots, make decisions that they regret, feel horrible in the morning, later boast in their exploits, call it fun and then do it all again. Why it is that many men and women are risking all sorts of diseases, some of them very dangerous, in these late night encounters?
As in the former diagram, we find things start with a bored person looking for meaning in life. They are aimless and bored. They don’t know what to do with their time. But then, as they seek distraction, they are tempted. In this case, they gain a faith that something wrong can bring a certain sense of satisfaction to their lives. Remember this is the lie. It is not true. The pleasure is temporary and always countered by harsh consequences. The allurement leads them to desperate acts of immorality, stealing, lying, etc. so that they can get stimulated and brag about the pleasure they experienced for that short time. You heard it was fun and good and so you tried it too. For them, they are willing to accept excitement as meaning.
But once that feeling with its associated pleasure came and was filled, it went away. It is interesting how God designed man. If the pleasure didn’t go away, we would surely end up killing ourselves by immediately repeating the act. After the short feeling of pleasure is satiated, guilt sets in. It is an awareness that one has broken God’s standard. This awareness gets less and less as one does it. People get more hardened and even convinced others are wrong to think it wrong. They even get upset with those associated with standards and God HiImself. Along with spiritual guilt, is a big emptiness, a void. Despair and depression often settles in. This makes the person even more willing to go through the cycle again. They don’t want that emptiness and the accusing guilt hanging over them. They rather make big plans for attending some party. They don’t want to think how they hurt or lied to someone.
Once a person gets into this trap, they easily fall into the rut of covering their emptiness with a distraction of pleasure. What makes this cycle so powerful is that it combines a whole complex of biological, sociological, emotional and spiritual patterns. We could say so much more. The most important is that being caught in a rut does not mean one is not a Christian, but if one stays in one, he betrays his true desires for evil and not good. If one repents, God will set a person free through the grace of Christ Jesus. Talk to me if you have a problem.
The “I” Factor
There are many ways that we seek for pleasure. Not all pleasure is wrong. But when it is sought in such a way that violates God’s revealed standards, then they become wrong. It is possible that Solomon bought out the property of others so that he could expand his own parks and private place. Even if he didn’t, many have. They were so focused on their desires to accomplish their project that they overstepped the boundaries. Remember how Queen Jezebel killed a man and chased off his widow in order to get his property and grapevines? This shows you how a goal can lead to many immoral decisions.
But there is another way to look at these things. It is easier to miss. Let’s look carefully again at the words Solomon wrote and see if we can catch the heart of this problem.
- I explored with my mind how to stimulate my body with wine.
- I enlarged my works: I built houses for myself, I planted vineyards for myself; I made gardens and parks for myself
- I collected for myself silver and gold
- I provided for myself male and female singers and the pleasures of men
- And all that my eyes desired I did not refuse them. I did not withhold my heart from any pleasure
- Then I became great and increased more than all.
- We notice right away two different but related things.
1) “I” His preoccupation with self
We first will notice how many “I” there are in this passage. His focus was on what he did. I did this or I did that. There is an innate desire to be known and recognized. We want people to think well of us. Part of this is our desire to be accepted but part of it is associated with our pride- we want to be the best. When we focus on what we did, then we compare ourselves and compete with others. We want to be best.
This is the ‘pride of life’ that John mentions. Esteeming what we decided to do and not to do. We even admire our decisions as to be the best decisions. When we focus on our own works, then we get to boast about how great we are.
There is the religious side of this too. Many people who call themselves Christians focus on how good they have been. That is their good works. They are smug in their good works. God hates this because our good works are just a whole system of pridefully examining our lives compared to others. We never compare it to what God wants. This is a religious person who has never found Jesus because he doesn’t think he needs Jesus. He is good enough. May God rescue you out of this pit of deception is this is where you are at.
We do not only see the number of “I”s in this passage but also the purpose for which he does them.
2) “For myself” His purpose centered around his own life
We see the number of ‘my’ and ‘for myself.’ Again, we agree that it is not wrong to think about our needs and try to care for them. God made us this way. But when we do this with our whole life, we fall into a great mass delusion of living for ourselves.
God never made us to live for ourselves. All His gifts and life itself was never to live for our own selves. Humanists believe and die in that belief, but it simply fools a person to think that their greatest good is found when they live for themselves. Solomon found this out for himself and God wants to warn us not to enter into his folly. There is something much greater out there to live for. Only when we begin to live for the purpose God has made us, will everything begin to properly fall into place. God said He made us for Himself. When we focus on our own lives, then we resist and reject not only His ways but He Himself. We end up with dust alone.
Jesus showed us how to live. He said, “The thief comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy; I came that they might have life, and might have it abundantly” (John 10:10). He Himself did not live for Himself but to do His Father’s will. His purpose was not to suit Himself. If it was, He would not have died on the cross for our sins. “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you, and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma” (Ephesians 5:1-2).
The apostle instructs us, ““Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men;” (Colossians 3:23). An outworking of this is how we as brothers and sisters in Christ live for each other as members of the body. We are not just doing what we like to do but doing what God would like us to do. As long as we live for ourselves, we mess up our lives and end up with much frustration and disappointment. Like Solomon, we will end up saying, “Thus I considered all my activities which my hands had done and the labor which I had exerted, and behold all was vanity and striving after wind and there was no profit under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 2:11).
Let’s take one more look at those things that Solomon involved himself. They are not very different than from our lives in some sense.
The Sandwich of Satisfaction
This list looks more like a list of, “What would you do if you had the money?” Solomon is not telling us, however, what he would like to do but what he did do. But even more, like a modern blog, he tells us openly why he did these things. He tears his mask off his face and throws the pretend reasons down. He tells everyone that when it comes down to it, he was trying to seek fulfillment in his life by all these things. He was seeking the ‘good’ (literal word for pleasure in 2:1) of life thinking it would fulfill him. It didn’t. If you have any doubts as to whether he was thinking about such things just notice his preface and conclusion to this section. They form a sort of sandwich.
He doesn’t get far into his thoughts before he gives us a shock treatment with the statement, “And behold, it too was futility” (2:1). If we missed his message, he ends the same way. “Thus I considered all my activities which my hands had done and the labor which I had exerted, and behold all was vanity and striving after wind and there was no profit under the sun” (2:11).
All these great things that we would like to put our life is stuffed into the vanity sandwich. There are a lot of people here who would not say that they have a problem with lust and drugs. But perhaps they are convinced that they can find meaning in life through other things. Let’s explore these other things.
Amusement are things that catch and keep our attention. A computer game or soap opera. A comedy. Music. They keep us distracted from our personal troubles or boredom. In the end, we might come to believe that our goal in life is to be kept amused.
Solomon had a number of projects. Notice the ecological sound plans. He wrestled God’s creation into beauty and function. He made a pond so that it would water a group of trees.
Perhaps we are more aware of this strategy, the one of possessions. Most people believe they are what they own. They feel stripped if they do not have any possessions. In their mind is a belief that having is everything. They cannot believe that those who do not have can be happy. Solomon had slaves and flocks. He could say, “I possessed flocks and herds larger than all who preceded me in Jerusalem” (2:7)
The rich look for ways to impress and to store their wealth. Collections are a cool way to do both at the same time. Whether it be books, art pieces, cars, etc., all are there to show off. They do not need them. Solomon collected, silver, gold and treasures from around the world. He showed them off.
Entertainment has become a pleasure for everyone. It used to be only for the rich and upper class. Solomon had to provide the entertainment for himself. In this case, he got male and female singers. He developed his own personal theater.
Solomon looked to be known by others. “I became great and increased more than all who preceded me.” Some people want to be recognized as others by great. They think if others think great of me, that I will feel important. But Solomon recognized it was all a sham, unfortunately he didn’t realize this until it was too late.
As he looked back in life, he could see all of these things as mere searches for pleasure or satisfaction. If any of the things satisfied them, he would not need to go on to other searches. But they all failed him. They would fail us too. Just the number of things he embarked on seem to be a clear enough testimony of this, but again it is his conclusion. All is vanity.
In particular, he named his activities as vanity. Perhaps, you feel a bit uncomfortable here thinking that he is being overcritical. But we must accept his words for their face value. He saw them as empty. All was striving after wind. It didn’t matter if in verse 9 he could say, “Then I became great and increased more than all who preceded me in Jerusalem.” Trying to find deep satisfaction will never come from what we have or our projects.
Can you recognize this? Many of you are young, and you are quite willing to think these things will fulfill you. God created this ancient blog and showed it to us so that we could get a better perspective on life. The summary is one that is hard to stomach, especially if you are focused on getting the most in your life. You might think of all the things that you are involved in or the plans you have for life. This is the reason I have asked you to think through not only what you are doing, but why you are doing it. This is why Solomon revealed his own heart’s intentions. He saw that when he got honest with himself, that he was trying to find delight in all his projects and the tantalizing of his body. If this was his goal, none of these things could help. Still down deep, he had this quest for something greater.
Some people serve in the church to find that ultimate sense of meaning. Some get married. Others have children. Others send their children to the best colleges. Even in these things, though they be good, one will not find it. Actually, many people do not know 1) that they are seeking some ultimate meaning in life and 2) where that ultimate satisfaction of life comes from. Let’s think about this a bit before closing.
Under the Sun & Above the Sun
Solomon’s summary concludes that “there is no profit under the sun.” We could rephrase that and simply say that none of these things brought about the real desired effect that he hoped. What did he want? Why did he want those things? Why didn’t he find it? I can imagine many people would like to trade places with him. But there was a better way, otherwise there is no reason to take away the hope of the young.
The hope comes from ‘above the sun.’ If we live for ourselves, we live without respect to what God might want for our lives. Just because one is religious, it does not mean that they live for God. Not at all. People use religion for their own purposes too.
Let me give an illustration. Say that the sum total of all our activities are represented by what can fit in a container like this barrel. It represents our life as we know it. We try to maximize our lives so that we get the most out of our lives. We are busy buying clothes that impress, get the best jobs with the best pay, marry someone from a good class, send our children to the best schools, etc. We are focused on as Solomon says many a time, “life under the sun.” We strive hard to have a good life, however we interpret that. We do our best with what we have. We congratulate those who best achieve what we think should be achieved and look down on those who do not.
Solomon did more than any of us could do. He had his barrel too. But let our lives past and time go on. Do those things mean anything? In other words, he asks us, “So what?” When things are vain it means that they are not worth anything. So what does it really matter what you did in the end when you are long gone? Did you ever go by the cemetery and wonder, “So what?” about their lives? What does it matter? You struggled so hard to get to that best college or get that position. But who remembers you? What difference does it make that you were rich or poor? All these achievements are empty if we look at things as he did from under the sun.
This is the secular viewpoint. All that exists is what we can see. It is very sad. But there is something in us that drives us to seek meaning. What is that? It is a reflection of God’s image in our lives. The real world is more than what we can see. Our little barrel of life is actually a part of a larger system. In fact, our life is like a barrel on a truck being transported into God’s presence. We all are ultimately accountable to Him.
The ultimate questions of life will never find their meaning in what we do for ourselves on earth but on what we have done for Him our Maker. One day our barrel will be opened up and all our actions, thoughts, decisions, projects will be evaluated. He will not ask us if we were a good husband. He will look at our lives and see whether we actually loved our wives. At that point, all our formerly hidden motives will be revealed.
The reason that our pursuits of pleasure and satisfaction do not really bring joy is that we have been serving ourselves. God made us to serve Him and others, and it is only when we live along with His design do we find fulfillment and joy. ““These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full” (John 15:11).
Conclusion: What does it mean to worship God?
The real pleasures that God has stored up for us are found in living for Him. Real meaning in life come about when we stop focusing on pleasing ourselves and start living for Him and others. All of a sudden, this one person, becomes the divine hand of God. God brings His love into the world through the body of Christ, His people.
We need to get to the motivation of our decisions. Why are we studying? Why are we leading worship? Why are we raising our children? Why do we drive the way we do? If a person lives for himself, then he will, as we have seen, boast in what he himself did and live for his own good. Whenever a person fixates himself on his own pleasures. he brings much trouble to his life, health and relationships not to mention the eternal consequences of life without God’s life.
Let’s get back to the topic of pleasure. What pleases you the most? What is it that you really live for? Is it a raise? Is it someone to praise you? Is it to have a nice house that people admire? Or some special thing you have done?
God wants us to have happy and joyful lives. Jesus again and again speaks about this joy. He knew the many great things that He did but got the most pleasure not in their meaning to Him but in the way He pleased His Father in heaven. Worship is honorable only when we are able to do all for His glory. Motivation counts. We can do normal things like have a vacation, but its purpose is transformed. Remember that time Jesus went off by Himself with His disciples? The people followed Him and once Jesus saw them he had compassion on them. Do all to the glory of God. When we seek to glorify Him in everything that we do, we change our focus to Him, and amazing changes take place. Let’s close by briefly looking at a few examples.
Giving thanks for our food. When we thank Him, we truly thank Him for the meal. He cared for us, and we are touched. We are not just focused on pleasing our senses, but transport the whole meal to eating in His presence. We recognize His grace to us. .
A Mom with a little one. When a Mom needs to get up in the middle of the night to care for the little one, she does not groan that she has been designated as the feeder as the woman while her husband sleeps. She glories in God’s ability to use her to care for one of His special creaturesher child. She sees her care as God’s care; her smile and warm care as God’s smile and warm care. Everything she touches becomes a marvelous mystery immersed in God’s love.
Pressure at work. A brother might be under a lot of pressure at work in the startup or in his research. People want him to perform. He feels a lot of stress. But then, he remembers his place in Christ. God is working through him to bring glory to God. Instead of getting upset with his boss, he pities him and thinks how he can share the gospel with him. He prays for him. He prays about his own work and works hard at pleasing God through His work. His work is important but it doesn’t mean anything compared to the way he does his work. He makes his pressurized job a temple of God. He is the priest to minister God’s love and care. He doesn’t need to know the answers, but he often casts his concerns upon the Lord that He would be glorified.
Let us close with a few reflective questions.
1) What are you chasing after in this life? Your self or God your Maker?
2) Where are you on the Cycle of Satisfaction?
3) Have you begun to live for God’s glory? What other area of your life can you dedicate to Him?
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