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What about being single?
Many singles think they are in a whole different world before they are marriedd. Think of the typical bachelor party. Does it not speak of the expected freedoms during bachelor life? Many singles find a subtle permission from their parents to indulge in their youthful lusts. The parents often have done the same in their youth and they turned out 'good people!' They have a difficult time seeing how their early compromises has polluted their lives. They are used to a poor marriage and have no concept of a good marriage. They do not know anything better. They think it is good to 'love' it up a bit before they end up having a poor binding marriage. "Just don't get into any trouble," it is said. So often the father will inadvertently encourage his young man to indulge in pornography and watch certain movies. They seem to think it is training for manhood.
Although this question might seem trivial to some and rather obvious to others, we need to clarify what the Lord really wants. He is our Maker and Designer. He knows what is best for us. Any booklet accompanied some machine tells the owner what he should and should not do. So what does our God say about singleness? One of the best passages in the scriptures defining the needed focus of young people seriously upon God's and His will.
"Prescribe and teach these things.
Youth are not exempted from a pursuit of purity or holiness. One of the big tricks from the evil one is to convince people that it doesn't matter what one does before marriage just so you don't hurt anyone. Frankly, any kind of impurity causes pain to others even if it is with the consent of others. This is why certain things are forbidden in the scriptures. They go contrary to the principle of loving God and loving our fellow man.
In summary, we find that clearly marriage is not the source of sins. Sexual sins are seen as an issue between how our hearts find expression in this world. Single and married people both can have sexual sins. The difference is that married people have an extra vow of fidelity that they are breaking and that the consequences are worse. Any sexual lusts in form of thoughts, words or deeds are evil no matter what stage in life we are at. A young teen or retired steel have their sexual lusts springing out of their own hearts. The question is whether we are going to repent from them and have God's Spirit change our hearts or just perpetuate this sin.