Genesis 2:7, 1:26-27

Genesis 2:18-25   

The Foundations of Marriage

Index

Objectives
Complementary in Role
Unity in Diversity
Unity in Intimacy
Unity in Independence
Problems in Our Society

When God first created man and woman, he also established marriage and the family relationship on which every society is built through the ages. Genesis 2:18-25 provides the blueprint for a Biblical marriage relationship. It gives us clear guidelines to have fulfilling marriage relationships as God originally intended.

Objectives

     Appreciate the distinct roles and responsibilities of man and woman in a family
     Understand the true intimacy we should have with our spouses
     Recognize the uniqueness of a marriage relationship
     Understand the proper relationship to our parents after marriage

The first gift God gave man was the relationship with Himself. He created man with the ability and need to love someone. God is to be that first love and to fulfill the need.

The second gift to man was the creation of a woman. This was very different from the first gift, but just as precious for him. Why did God give man this second gift? How was it special?

This passage shows us the original intention and design of a marriage relationship before the fall in chapter 3.

Complementary in Role

     In Genesis 1 and the first part of 2, God had said: "It is good." This is the first time God said: "It is not good for the man to be alone."

     God created woman to be a suitable helper to man.
      -  This shows the insufficiency of man and the need for a partner.

     Genesis 1:27 tell us: "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them."
      -  They were both created with equal status and both in God's image.-
      -  They were made distinct: Male and female.

     Man and woman are created for different roles that are complimentary.

     Husband and wife like puzzle pieces fit together.God created man first and to be a leader in the marriage and family relationship.

     God declared that it is not good for man to be alone (v. 18)
> Naming of all the animals (v. 19-20) > Creation of woman (v. 21-22)
      -  The goal of woman is to help man accomplish his God given tasks.
      -  Misguided excuse for wife abuse: "Since I am called to be the leader and she is called to be the helper, therefore she is to be my slave to do as I please."

Question 1: How does this passage address the issue of career wives and mothers?

Question 2: How should the husband exercise his leadership in the family?

Question 3: How does the wife compliment and help the husband in his responsibilities?

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Unity in Diversity

Table excerpted from "Guys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus" by Ray and Sue Bohlin. It should be noted that this is a secular chart as in contrast to a Christian chart.

Basic Differences Between Men and Women

Men

Women

Sense of self: achievement
Task-oriented
Self-reliant
Ask for help = weakness

Sense of self: relationships
Relationship-oriented
Inter-dependent
Ask for help = compliment

Focus is on goal

Enjoy the process

Competition

Cooperation

Analytical

Intuitive

Linear: focus on one thing at a time.
Compartmentalized (chest of drawers).

Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once.
Contiguous (ball of yarn).

Action-oriented.
Hostility: physical.
Feels better by solving problems.

Verbal
Hostility: verbal
Feels better by talking about problems

When under stress: distracts self with various activities to relax.
Withdraws into his "cave."

When under stress: gets more involved with others.
Talks in order to be heard and understood

Primarily needs respect
(trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement).
Needs to be needed.

Primarily needs cherishing
(tender care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance).
Needs to be protected.

Words: for conveying facts and information.

Words: like breathing

Imagine Adam waking up and found another man next to him. Their lives would be very boring.-

 


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Unity in Intimacy

Will you take this woman to be your lawful wedded wife, to live together according to God's commandments? Will you assume all of the responsibilities of headship over your home? Will you love her, respect her, provide for her, comfort her, honor and cherish her, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity, and forsaking all other keep yourself for her alone so long as you both shall live?

     "Bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh."

     "Cleave to his wife" - to adhere firmly and closely or loyally and unwaveringly.-
      o  Physical level – Consummation of marriage-
      o  Soul to soul – Best friends with compatible interests and hobbies-
      o  Spirit to spirit  - Be not unequal yoking between believers and unbelievers

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14)

     Ephesians 5:28 says:

So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.

     Exclusivity in marriage relationship

     Permanence of the marriage relationship - "They will become one flesh."

Unity in Independence

     Man move from under parents' authority to under God directly – His loyalty will be to his wife first.

     Woman move from under parents' authority to under husband's leadership – Her loyalty will be to her husband first.

     Chain of command under parents changes to chain of counsel.

     Marriage intimacy is a reflection of our relationship with Christ
      o  Ephesians 5:22-28

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; (Ephesians 5:22-28, NASB).

      o  We are to be 'cleaved' and united to Christ as our groom.


Umbrella of father and mother
 

Umbrella of father and mother

Son

Husband and wife

Daughter

 

(New Family Unit)

 

   Problems in Our Society

After the fall, as man strays away from God"s blueprint for marriage, the manifestation of the corruption becomes apparent.

 

Secular Teaching

Biblical Standard

Role and responsibly of woman

Same as man

Helper to man

The need for a helper

Defect

By design

Husband/ wife relationship

Independence

Healthy inter-dependence

Relationship with parents

Dependence (e.g. Chinese culture)

Independence

Marriage relationship

Temporal and on trial basis

Permanent

We can see certain deviant choices made by mankind when belief in God's Words diminishes.

     Homosexuality: Against God"s principle of one man and one woman in a fulfilling relationship
     Feminism: Wanting absolute equality between man and woman.
     Adultery/Fornication
     Pornography
     Polygamy
     Divorce – Rampant even among Christians
     Hedonism – Live for the pleasure of the moment
      o  It's okay as long as my spouse does not find out, no one will be hurt.
      o  Cohabitation helps the two people get acquainted and try out the relationship first before deciding on marriage.
      o  Marriage is optional, we can be just as happy living together for the rest of our lives.



Developing Love in Your Marriage
Strengthening Godly Marriages: The Marriage Navigator
Renewing Affections between Husband and Wife
God's Sexual Design for Our Lives and Marriages
Goal and Design of Marriage: Intimacy
Helping Solve Marital Problems

 

The Genesis Index

Genesis Introduction:  Introduction to Genesis |  Outline and Genealogies  |  Genesis' Chronologies (5 & 11) |   Unified Themes of Genesis
Genesis 1-2:3:   The Worship of the Creator |  The Meaning of Creation  |  Creation Lessons on God.  |  God and the World's Religions
Genesis 2:4-17:    Preparation for Man (Genesis 2:4-6) |  Creation of Man (Gen. 2:7, 1:26-27) |  Purpose for Man (Genesis 2:8-17)
Genesis 2:18-25: The Foundations of Marriage
Genesis 3:1-13: The Fall of Man | Temptation (Genesis 3:1-6) | The Fall (Genesis 3:7-13) | Questions 3:1-6 | Questions 3:7-13
Genesis 5-9: Genesis Flood | Genesis 05 Genealogical Chart
Genesis 10-11: Noah's Sons| Questions | History Genesis 10:6-11 | Tower of Babel Genesis 11:1-9 | Questions | Culture Genesis 11
Genesis 12-22:   The Call: Genesis 12.1The Promises: Genesis 12.2-3  |  The Means: Genesis 15The Testing: Genesis 22
Genesis 12-16: Introduction |   Place Detour: Genesis 12:10-20; 20 |  Person Detour: Genesis 12:13-14Procedure Detour: Genesis 16-17
Genesis 14:1-24: Three Steps to Spiritual Growth | #1 Observe | #2 Utlilitize | #3 Secure
Genesis 18-19: Cultural Woes of Sodom | Appearing to Abraham | Visit to Sodom | Debate of Homosexuality and Sodom
Genesis 21-26: Isaac's Model for Godly Marriages
Genesis 27-36: Genesis 27-36 Jacob's Life of Faith
Genesis 25-37: Influence of Sin | God and Man's Sin | Understanding Man's Sin Nature | Understanding Jacob's Sins
Genesis 37-50: Joseph’s Dillusonment | Genesis 42-47:12: The Big Picture | Conclusion | The Reason



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