The Big Race

Joining in
What is the race like?
Can I make it?
Does it really matter?

Getting Ready
Getting in Shape
Your Trainers
Distance Training
Course Overview

Crossing the Line
Readying the Mind
Mastering the Course
Deciding to Win
Feel for winning
Building blocks
Design of marriage
Relevance of marrriage
Life changing truths
1) Loving or lusting
Choice of love
Fulfillment problems
Sources of love
Questions of love
Overcoming lusts
2) Filled or empty
Finding fulfillment
Problems of fulfillment
Sources of fulfillment
Questions of fulfillment
3) Security or Loneliness
Choosing security
Overcoming loneliness
Clarifying our destination

Our Battle Plan

Running the Race
Gaining stamina
Overcoming hurdles
Roadside cheer
Feeling overwhelmed
Thoughts controlled!

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Let us close off this section with a wrap up. We have walked in deep discussion. We will see that God does not use superficial answers for our problems in life. If you had to summarize everything in this marriage section, how would you summarize it? There are two deep principles.
#1 Healing and help comes only from a deep relationship with the Lord.
Every problem leads us back to Him and His ways. Knowledge helps, us but it doesn't save us. Relationship with Christ saves us. The knowledge we have passed on will only direct your path. Only He can save. Christ is a living Savior and seeks a deeper relationship with us. Let us not be afraid of bringing our problems to Him. And don't think that once you have overcome your lusts that you do not need to trust Him any longer. Wrong. In the last major section we will cover numerous strategies to keep our relationship strong with our living Lord. Christ is risen!

#2 When we pursue the Lord and what He says is good, then we can overcome any problem.
  • When we are love-driven, then we cannot pursue lusts.
  • When we are fulfilled with His love, then we can not be empty.
  • When we know are secure in His eternal love, then we will not be lonely.

Of course, if our greatest joy is not to know and love the Lord, then we will always wander back to our most loved ways. If you sense this is your problem, return to our long distance training. Your chief joy in life will always steer you in its own direction. Only God can help us gain a new heart.

What is God's plan for our lives?
What is our final destination?

1) God first of all has the intention of calling us "oaks of righteousness." The very ones that were called afflicted, broken and cast aside as prisoners will stand up strong as the mighty oaks. God designs for our healing to be thorough so that we can represent His right ways on earth.

2) Secondly, we see our healing will be for His glory. People see us as frail and broken, but when God is through with us, we will stand as a modern miracle before the world. It is only right that God is honored for the very things He does.

3) Thirdly, we discover from these verses and many others that God has plans to use us to help others. We want relief and control, but God knows we were made to serve others. Lust must turn to love. God has plans to use our lives in the restoration of others. God in His mysterious love outfits us so that we who were once so broken can be used in caring for those we have hurt.
"... So they will be called oaks of righteousness, The planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified. 4 Then they will rebuild the ancient ruins, They will raise up the former devastations, And they will repair the ruined cities, The desolations of many generations."
(Isaiah 61:3-4)